Lesson 3: Focus on What Really Moves the Needle

The 3 Habits That Truly Matter

Instead of just "adding habits," let’s talk about why habits fail and focus on the 3 real drivers of sustainable change—habits that actually matter because they target the root of the issue.

1. Trigger Awareness (The Habit Before the Habit):
   The #1 reason habits fail? People ignore what leads to the habit.

• Example: You don’t snack late at night because you’re hungry—you snack because you’re bored or stressed.

• Practical Insight: Identify the trigger before the action. Write down when and why your bad habits show up. Awareness creates room for change.

2. The 80/20 Habit Rule:
   Not all habits are created equal. Focus on the 20% of habits that drive 80% of your results.

• Example: Tracking your calories accurately is more impactful than obsessing over specific food choices.

• Practical Insight: Audit your current habits. What’s one high-impact habit you can double down on right now?

3. Mindset Rewiring (The Habit of Thinking):
   Most habits fail because they’re seen as chores instead of investments. Reframe your mindset to associate habits with a positive identity.

• Example: Instead of “I have to work out,” say, “I’m someone who values my health.”

• Practical Insight: When you skip a habit, don’t quit. Evaluate why it happened, adjust, and move forward. Consistency is built on flexibility, not perfection.

Deep Dive: Why Most Habits Don’t Stick

• The Overhaul Trap:
  Most people try to change too much at once. Habits stick when they’re small and manageable. Instead of overhauling your diet, commit to adding one extra serving of vegetables a day.

• Lack of Emotional Connection:
  If a habit feels like work, it won’t last. Tie it to something meaningful. For instance: “Walking daily isn’t just about exercise—it’s my time to de-stress and clear my head.”

• No Immediate Feedback:
  Long-term habits often lack short-term rewards. Build in micro-rewards to stay motivated.

• Example: Put $5 in a jar every time you hit your step goal. Use it for something fun at the end of the month.